The ultimate list of French conversation starters

It’s finally happened: You’ve learned enough French that you can carry on at least a simple conversation with a French person! Félicitations !  

But now that you can do it, you may be wondering how to go about it.

Let’s look at some French conversation starters, as well as some strategies and phrases you’ll need to carry on a conversation in French. You will also discover the most popular French conversation topics (and the ones to avoid!)

The most useful French conversation starters and topics

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When it comes to striking up a conversation with a French person, the most important thing to remember isn’t “French”, but “person”. There are several common situations, subjects, and circumstances that can be good conversation starters with just about anyone.

Here are some of the most common of those, along with a few related French conversation starter examples:

Your surroundings

You might ask about a monument, a restaurant recommendation, or if the person likes or knows the place you’re in.

A shared experience

This could include a movie or play you’ve just watched together, an exhibit you both visited, a place you’ve both been, etc.

Asking for advice/recommendations

This could be about just about anything, from a menu choice, to a restaurant, to a travel destination, to a shop….

Asking about someone’s interests

Asking about someone’s pet or child

Asking about someone’s vacation

French people have a lot of paid time off and often travel. That said, keep in mind that not all people can afford to travel.  So it might be good to start with a question like:

If a vacation is approaching, you could also ask: Tu vas partir en vacances ?/Vous allez partir en vacances ?

Other vacation-related conversation starters include:

For someone who didn’t travel, you could ask: Vous vous êtes bien reposé(e)(s) ?/Tu t’es bien reposé(e) ?/ (Did you get to relax?)

The weather

Ah, the universal conversation topic! Unlike the British, the French aren’t particularly known for discussing the weather with frequency, but it’s always a pertinent topic to at least mention and briefly discuss, especially if the weather is particularly unusual.

The reason to ask this latter part is that most French people don’t have air conditioning, so their response will usually be interesting; either a miserable Non or an explanation for how they kept cool. If this includes a recent air conditioner purchase, you’ll probably find additional directions to take the conversation (the conveniences and inconveniences of having one, etc.)

Shopping

This includes where to find something, bargains, etc.

Weekend plans or general future plans

Work

Be aware that while it’s very common to share what you do for work, it’s considered rude to talk about money/salary in France, at least in general conversation.

Conversation starters for talking to children

Some people freeze up when they have to talk to kids, but remember that it’s similar to talking to adults. Focus on interests, work (well, in this case, school), upcoming or future plans, and shared experiences. In addition to many of the previous examples on this list, you could also ask French kids things like:

  • Tu es dans quelle classe ? (What grade/level are you in?)
  • Ça se passe bien à l’école ? (Is school going well?)
  • Qu’est-ce que tu aimes faire ? (What do you like to do?)

You might have noticed that all of these examples only use tu. That’s because you only address young children with this pronoun. Use vous only if you’re talking to multiple children.


Hopefully this list has given you a lot of conversation starter ideas. If you’re still looking for more, this article has a good list of additional French conversation starters.

Easy ways to ask questions in French

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J’habite à Paris, et toi ?

If you’re able to have a conversation in French, you’re probably familiar with how to ask questions in French.  

Still, while the typical technique of adding the phrase Est-ce que to a statement may seem easy enough, it’s possible that you’ll get nervous when you’re on the spot. Fortunately, there are lots of ways to ask questions in French, and some of them are especially good to know if you’re in a bind. These include:

  • Intonation. Example: Vous habitez à Paris ?/Tu habites à Paris ? (You live in Paris?)
  • Statement + et toi?/et vous? Example: J’habite à Paris, et vous ?/J’habite à Paris, et toi ? (I live in Paris, how about you?)
  • Statement + non? Example: Vous habitez à Paris, non ?/Tu habites à Paris, non ? (You live in Paris, right?)
  • A useful question phrase: Qu’en pensez-vous ?/Qu’en penses-tu ? (What do you think of it/this/that?)

Example: Vous avez visité Paris. Qu’en pensez-vous ?/Tu as visité Paris. Qu’en penses-tu ? (You visited Paris. What do you think of it?)

An alternative structure is to use penser de + quelqu’un/quelque chose. This eliminates the need for the en, which is a replacement for that specific thing or person.  

Example: Que pensez-vous de Paris ?/Que penses-tu de Paris ? (What do you think of Paris?)

You might be wondering why the question phrase n’est-ce pas isn’t included on this list. As I was surprised to learn when I first came to live in France, this phrase is considered a bit formal and old-fashioned in everyday conversation.  You may come across it in things like televised debates or movies and books, but generally it’s best to opt for something else. That said, if you’re having a conversation in French and this phrase is all that comes to mind, you will be understood if you use it.

Common French question words

Another thing that will help with asking questions in a French conversation is to be familiar with these common French question words:

  • Qui (Who)
  • Qu’est-ce que (What (note that there are other ways to say “what” in French, depending on the context))
  •  (Where)
  • Quand (When)
  • Pourquoi (Why)
  • Comment (How)

There are variations of many of these, but at least knowing the ones here off the top of your head will give you some extra ammunition and inspiration when it comes time to striking up a conversation – or keeping one going.

French conversation tips and strategies

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In addition to knowing some conversation starters, when it comes to having a conversation in French as a non-native speaker, there are a few strategies that can help things go smoothly:

Know which conversation topics tend to interest French people

Our list of French conversation starters gives a good idea of general topics that could work with most people, regardless of their nationality or cultural background. In addition to those, here are some topics that most – but keep in mind, not all – French people will usually enjoy discussing:

Travel

Okay, this one is already mentioned in our list but it’s such a good one that I wanted to include it here as well. French people have a lot of vacation time, and a recent study ranked them among the top five nationalities that travel the most. If a French person isn’t able to travel, you could ask them about places they’d like to go.

Current events

The French tend to be very well-informed about national news and international headlines, as well as general issues faced by different cultures. As someone who prefers history and celebrity gossip to depressing headlines, I’m often caught off guard when a French person asks me about a news story from the United States.

They may also ask me about an issue in my native country, like gun control. This is usually done in a neutral way, more like, “What do you think about the gun control issue?” rather than “What’s your position on gun control?” or “Have you ever owned a gun?”, although it depends on the person.

If you want to ask a French person about current events, remember the same rule: Keep questions neutral and be open-minded.

So instead of asking things like “Who did you vote for in the last election?” or “I don’t like your President,” say something like “What do you think of the political environment right now?”

Que pensez-vous de l’ambiance politique actuelle ?

Que penses-tu de l’ambiance politique actuelle ?

Or “In your opinion, who will win the next election(s)?”

Qui gagnera les prochaines elections, d’après vous ?

Qui gagnera les prochaines elections, d’après toi ?

Or “What do you think of Macron?”

Que pensez-vous de Macron ?

Que penses-tu de Macron ?

The region a French person is from or grew up in

The question “Where are you from in France” (Vous venez de quelle region ?/Tu viens de quelle region ?)

Or “Do you like living in___?” (Est-ce que vous aimez vive en  Auvergne ?/Est-ce que tu aimes vivre en Auvergne ?) will probably give you some interesting answers.

Again, keep in mind that not all French people will enjoy talking about these topics. But as a general rule, bringing up at least one of them will usually lead to an interesting conversation.

Consider an individual’s interests.

In the previous item on this list, I gave three topics that most French people like to discuss. But what trumps them all is a shared interest. For instance, I have many French friends who avidly follow politics, but they also love movies and art. Since those topics interest me more, and since they might specifically want to talk about a film they’ve seen or an exhibit they went to, we can just as easily talk about them.

In some situations, of course, it may even make sense to talk about a common interest. If you’re watching a football match, for instance, you’re probably not going to randomly bring up travel plans (well, depending on the context, I guess).

Know which topics to avoid.

Conversation is all about your partner, so if you get the sense that there’s something they don’t want to talk about, don’t push it.

Also, there are some topics that should generally be avoided in polite conversation in France. Most notable among these are money (how much something costs, how much money someone makes, etc., unless the context calls for it) and religion.

Don’t be afraid to say you don’t understand.

If a conversation starts getting a little too involved for your vocabulary level, or if the other person spoke too quickly, don’t be afraid to say something like Désolé(e) mais je n’ai pas compris. People will be sympathetic – after all, you’re a non-native speaker who’s brave and talented enough to carry on a conversation with them – and will slow down and repeat, or else try another tactic.

This article lists some additional strategies for how to deal with challenges in French conversations.  

Keep reading, watching, listening to, and speaking French.

This is the best way to improve your French conversation skills. You’ll increase your vocabulary, learn and hone grammar skills, pick up on cadence and common oral expressions — and you may even discover some new conversation topics along the way!

You can check out our list of free ways to learn and practice French to get started.

Of course, actually having conversations in French is key, as well. If you’re looking for someone to practice with, here’s our list of apps and sites where you can find a French conversation partner.


The most important thing to remember about having a conversation in French is that it’s just that – a conversation. You’ll be talking to a human being, not a mean robot who expects you to speak perfect French or always say the same thing. So don’t be afraid if you make a few mistakes, and if you get the impression that there’s something else worth discussing, try going off script and bringing it up.  

It may feel intimidating to strike up a conversation with someone, especially in a foreign language. But I promise it’s worth it. Speech is what makes us human, and sometimes even the shortest exchange of words can create a connection and memories that will last long after the conversation is over.

Alysa Salzberg

Alysa Salzberg is an American writer, worrier, teacher, and cookie enthusiast who has lived in Paris, France, for more than a decade. She has taught English and French for more than ten years, most notably as an assistante de langue vivante for L'Education Nationale. She recently published her first novel, Hearts at Dawn, a "Beauty and the Beast" retelling that takes place during the 1870 Siege of Paris. You can read about her adventures here, or feel free to stop by her website.

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